Greetings from the Xyphokonic Order and Ordinance. Today, we shall speak more about Death and its mortal impacts within the perspective of a Xyphoist lens. This topic was introduced last time by exploring the fears of Death through Xyphoist eyes. Today, we will be discussing how grief is perceived and handled via the same measure.
This a very touching and deeply held discussion, as once the fear of Death has passed, we must then experience and process Death from an emotional and psychological standpoint. The passing of a loved one is a major event and an irreversible one as well. We spend our whole lives building powerful and loving bonds with each other: the parents to their child and the child to their parents, from sibling to sibling, friend to friend, teachers and students, neighbors, idols or role models, and the like. Throughout all these lifelong bonds, the thought of Death is always in the background; we are subconsciously aware, as we see death happen around us, that the very people we cherish and love are also subject to that inevitable end.
Although, in many cases, people will often shelf that thought or outright pretend it isn’t a reality, which often results in a passing of a loved one striking harder once it happens. The Philosophy teaches that Death is an Eternal Reality, and that the Lord of Death is not an adversary, and that the Child of Death wears many masks and encourages that Death be seen as an old companion greeting you and taking you to the next Pathan. A sincere respect for Death is key to processing the grief of Death itself. The key point to take away from grief is that grief is an attachment of the Spiritual Heart—it is natural to experience, to feel, and to struggle with.
The loss of a loved one often feels like a piece of your own heart has broken off and has fallen to the void. It is often an experience that invokes a feeling of dread when you are aware of the immediate case and despair when it is sudden. These are natural human feelings, and are not to be shunned away but to be held and thought about and processed. Much like not fearing Death itself, the Philosophy encourages us to be full and true to what our hearts tell us on Love: the Initial Will is Love, grief from Death comes from an intense sense of Love, and that grief itself is a means in which we express our sincere feelings of Love. Grief can come in many forms, from muted responses to intense reactions, the way we show grief various by person.
The important thing to remember is that our grief is an outlet of Catharsis, which is the central theming of the concept of Misted Unhinged Grievance within the concept of Xyphoist Purity; that raw, pure, grief-stricken emotion is our way of expressing our authentic feelings on the loss of a loved one. The very act of showing and expression grief is an act of Purity. However, it is important that we don’t allow ourselves to be consumed by the Darkness of Death, which as mentioned in this Commentary, exists to expire the light on purpose. Those internal thoughts and actions ruled by Dark Auras can sometimes sway out of balance and lead to depressive or even self-destructive tendencies in the face of Death and grief, and it’s quite important to understand the feeling of that imbalance.
This is where the power of both Love, Reality, and Purity comes into place. Love and Time are the two attributes that heal all pain, and require holding onto one’s perceptive reality to perceive that internal healing and growth. Through the various subsets of Xyphoist Love such as compassionate, unconditional, and devotional, the pain of grief is mended through those bonds we still share among the living as we celebrate the life of the deceased. Suffering in silence or alone in the dark is often the quickest path to falling into despair while processing a Death, and it is key to always remember that you do not have to grieve alone forever. It is common for people to need a bit of space to process alone, and that’s fine too, but always remember that once that personal time has subsided, there shall always be a community within Xyphoist circles to grieve together.
In fact, that group grieving is a core part of Xyphoist Purity as well, particularly the second concept of Illuminated Shackled Mercy. The officials of the Ordinance, particular those within Vuetenexian, Kyaius, and Carneiyean wings, are taught and encompass those attributes and concepts of our given Xyphozons, and often can help listen to your woes, share in your empathetic experiences, and give personal counselling on grief itself as we all experience it throughout life. The power of community is within how it prays, cheers, and also cries together. The loss of one member is the loss of the whole congress, and the celebration of Life is also a shared and cherished experience.
We offer our condolences, we offer whatever we can help in times of needs, and we share a single Living Will—the will of the Lords—and our hearts are united as one in Love. Grief is a personal experience but a group healing, and there is no need to process alone if one decides not to. The Ordinance always hosts Ceremonies of Death at no cost to its followers, and the Choir will always sing in prayer for every Life lost and usher their fallen souls into the Afterlife. We always open our doors and venues to celebrations of Life, and we will always offer a resting spot for the remains of the fallen within our premises within the Resting Halls to all followers of the Order and members of the Ordinance. Grief is not loneliness, it is group healing, and the Philosophy encourages that through Compassionate Love.
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